DUI ADVICE…pleasee anyone?
Okay so my brother in law is an idiot... He has 3 DUI'S one he just recently got last week. the first two was for having alcohol in his system and this recent one was for failing a blood test for marijuana. I AM COMPLETELY AGAINST ANYONE WHO HAS HAD A DUI AND HAS PUT OTHERS LIVES IN DANGER......
Okay so my brother in law is an idiot...
He has 3 DUI'S one he just recently got last week. the first two was for having alcohol in his system and this recent one was for failing a blood test for marijuana.
I AM COMPLETELY AGAINST ANYONE WHO HAS HAD A DUI AND HAS PUT OTHERS LIVES IN DANGER....
[its scary how much power another has on someone else's life. & they don't seem to care]
What will happen to him? what are the consequences? it seems to me like he has gotten off easy from the judge the first two times...
BY THE WAY he will make 21 in december!
I ask this because he is staying at my home and i dont want him there but my husband cant turn his back on his good for nothing brother. he is still smoking weed and his license were suspended and he is still driving around...
im not an evil B**** but i have children and if he cant change after his 3rd offense i dont want him near my kids or have those substances around my new home....
Basically i want to know what is his chances of going to prison....
thank you for all your advice... i seriously appreciate it and he needs to get out and i WILL CALL THE COPS to have him picked up the next time he leaves the home or he has any type of drug on him...i just dont want him here... so i will talk to my husband and our kids are definitely our first priority...=] thank you again...
He’s going to jail!
I had a DUI when I was 18, that was over 21 years ago. I f’d up, but learned my lesson.
He hasn’t!
so is this a question or you venting anger?
Where I live the 3rd offense is a felony.
I don’t think you’re an "evil bitch" at all. This person has a PROBLEM. And it needs to be addressed before he kills himself or someone else.
I think you should tell him just what you said, that you "dont want him near your kids or have those substances around your new home"
I can appreciate your husband’s loyalty, but I think you should ask him who he values more. His brother, or you and his children. I’m guessing, though, since this is his 3rd offense in such a short time, that the courts and jail are going to solve your problem for you.
You need to talk to your husband heart to heart. Express your fears as to what could happen to the children. If he doesnt fear for your children then………….I wont say what I would do next if I were you.
Not to be an azzhole or anything, but if YOU arent proactive in protecting your children, you will be partly to blame if something happens. Your childrens safety should be your first and only priorty.
Your BIL is a total addict and he’s headed for jail. If not for this offense, eventually, because he won’t stop driving while impaired and with a suspended license.
I don’t blame you for how you feel; I share your feeling. Your husband is both kind and flawed for allowing a criminal to live with your children.
He’s probably going to get jail time, if not, he will at least get probation. He also should lose his car insurance, if he hasn’t already, and have his license revoked.
You have to have a hard talk with your husband. He should be putting the interest of his children before his adult brother (even if the adult brother is acting like a child).
If he has substances in the home, call the police and have him picked up for possession. If you see him drive away impaired, call the cops to have him picked up for driving w/o license. Make sure your husband knows before you do this so you don’t start a fight with him. Also understand that the costs to defend him legally from all this trouble will be huge (an estimate of $15,000+ in Virginia for a DUI when you factor in legal costs, increased insurance rates, lost time from work, etc.). So you and your husband need to agree before hand how much you will support him financially if anything.
I think he (brother) needs to seek the help of a criminal defense attorney. If he agrees to voluntarily enter rehab, he might stand a chance of one last leniency.
Also, do not, under any circumstances, allow him to drive any of your cars. If he does, and he crashes into someone and causes property damage or personal injury, then the person he crashes into can sue you (!) as the owner of the vehicle. Find a place where you can lock up your keys (sad to do that in your own home) so he can’t get to them.
Depends on the state. However from what you say he might be going away for a little while, depending on the lawyer and judge.
With that many DUIs it Sounds as if he has a drinking problem. Although for the safety of the kids I would get them away ASAP if the government takes action with kids suspecting the kids may be in danger or if another relative thinks the kids are in danger and would be better with them they could claim child endangerment and file for custody because of his drug and alcohol history.
Above all I would say dont let him babysit because that is child neglect on all parties and can be subject to criminal prosecution if anything happens to the kids (Its also more likely to happen according to his judgmental history)