My fiance recently got his 4th DUI in 8 years. What are the chances of misdemeanor vs felony charges?
This is his 4th DUI since 2000. I was aware of other DUIs but not that there were 3 other DUIs. He has not paid the fines or taken care of the other 3 DUIs. Now that he knows that he is facing DUI Felony charges he has enrolled in classes and has since stop drinking he is very concerned unfourtuntel...
This is his 4th DUI since 2000. I was aware of other DUIs but not that there were 3 other DUIs. He has not paid the fines or taken care of the other 3 DUIs. Now that he knows that he is facing DUI Felony charges he has enrolled in classes and has since stop drinking he is very concerned unfourtuntely it took this to happen for him to realize. There have been no injuries or special circumstances in the other cases and he has never actually served time for his other offenses. Im concerned that they will throw the book at him now. The deal with the 4th offense is that we had gotten in a argument at home he had been drinking and left to cool down. However once I realized he had the car I called the police gave then a description of the car he was literally 2 blocks away coming back home when they arrested him. It wasn't like he was driving home from the bar and was being completely irresponsible he knew he shouldn't have been out there and was coming home. I feel somewhat responsible.
There have been no injuries or deaths YET……..
Yeah now that he’s facing Felony charges he sees the light. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to married to this guy and put your children in the car with him?
Do you realize that for every 1 DUI/DWI a person has driven intoxicated 50+ times and did not get caught. Not very responsible to get 3 DUI and not deal with them. He took what SATOP/WHIP classes? How long has he been COMPLETELY alcohol free-30 days. Good for you for reporting him-you might have saved someones life.You are not responsible that he’s an alcoholic. I would run like h*** from this guy, he has a big problem; especially if he is blaming YOU in any way or form. He was being completely irresponsible and what is scary this is not the FIRST TIME
4 DUIs. He needs serious jail time. Why are you still with this loser?
I HOPE there is a HUGE chance that you say good bye to that loser!
I hope you haven’t already made kids with him, since that is we way its being done in this day and age of depravity.
If he hasn’t paid past fines, he won’t be coming home from court. Surprised they even released him. Yor fiance is a loser who shows no responsibility. Is this the way you want to live the rest of your life?
Don’t be surprised to find that he was also driving without a licnese since it was probably suspended for non payment of the past fines.
4 DUIs? You want to marry a loser like this? Move on before you are pulled down to his level and your kids are growing up visiting daddy in prison.
He doesn’t deserve to have a driver’s licence. He needs more than a slap on the wrists to make him grow up.
Depends on the laws of your unknown State.
In my State (CA) it would take an act of God himself, countersigned by the Pope and the governor, to avoid felony charges for a 4th DUI in eight years after not complying with the sentencing requirements for the three prior ones.
Richard
The chances of a felony are 100%, no ifs, ands, or buts. He will also be charged for the other DUIs. I would estimate that he will be sentenced to 10 years in prison, but probably serve only about three.
Honestly, I find this hard to believe. If he was arrested for DUI and had one on his record that had not been resolved, why would they have let him out of jail? I think he may be lying to you in order to make you feel bad for calling the cops.
Also, you are responsible for the most recent arrest, as 90% of the time people drive drunk they don’t get caught. However, the world owes you a big "thank you", as does your fiancée’, as now he may finally get some help. He’s going to be getting it behind bars, though. Sorry.
I guess it all depends on the laws in your state. I think around here the 3rd one = felony. And yeah, you should feel bad about it…I certainly don’t condone DUI, (I’ve done my share of it in the past) but calling the cops on your own husband already with 3, knowing he was drunk when he left? Not cool in my book.
Once the argument started, with him being drunk and a tendancy to drink and drive, you should have hid the car keys.
You should be more worried about the chances of him killing you and/or other people when he is driving. You are only responsible for enabling his irresponsible drinking and driving habits, not for his idiocy in getting drunk and driving.
You haven’t taken on his baggage yet. Don’t . My daughter married someone just like the person you are talking about and they were married 8 years before she came to the conclusion that a person with this problem has to want to change for it to happen. Four DUI’s is a lot and since he hasn’t taken care of them in the past , the present judge will see his actions as probably short of the mark and give him jail time. I just hate to see anyone have to go through their lives with this kind of problem. You can help yourself by choosing to separate yourself from his problems and wait until he has not only cleaned up his life but taken care of all the financial end of it also. It cost a lot to clean up any DUI let alone 4 of them.
you are buying into a serious problem…this guy is going to be severely dealt with to answer your question. you brought the problem head on to be dealt with by calling the police. results could have been worse/accident/killing/injury/etc
He definitely has an alcohol problem.
It isn’t a sad case of a couple foolish choices: it’s a consistent pattern, over a long time. Don’t try to brush it off.
Alcoholics try to get someone else to accept the blame for their condition… DON’T FALL FOR IT.
No one else MADE him drink.
Nobody knocked him down, duct-taped his feet & wrists together, stood on his chest & forced liquor down his throat.
he did it to himself, voluntarily.
He should not be allowed to POSSESS any set of keys to any vehicle; he should not be allowed to know where the keys are;
he should be court-ordered to go to AA, attend funerals for victims of drunk drivers, take random breathalyser tests, pay all victim’s costs, surrender his driver’s license, take Antabuse daily under medical supervision, and pay all past fines.
Whether the judge requires all this, is hard to tell — you don’t say what state you are in.
A friend of mine was in the exact same situation: her husband would get mad, then go drive somewhere to "cool off", trouble is, when he’s behind the wheel, he feels powerful & in control. It feels good ; especially when he can’t win an argument with his grilfriend . Behind the wheel, he’s less likely to "take it" from anyone: that includes law enforcement.
if he needs to leave the house, fine. But he should be running or walking or biking, not using anything with a motor.
(my friend’s marriage broke up, & he had to do time.)
what you CAN do, and really SHOULD do, is:
have him thoroughly checked by a dr experienced in alcohol abuse damage… it’s possible he may be bad off enough, that he may experience "blackouts", where he’s unaware of anything he’s doing or saying. Alcohol causes brain damage.
1)get a will made out.
If he drives with you as a passenger, you might not come out alive.
2) have him get a will made out.
If he drives after drinking again, HE may not come out alive.
if he protests, tell him, "but, honey, don’t you love me ?"
basic wills are not expensive — & if you are getting married, you should do this anyway, even if there was no alcohol problem.
3) take away all his car keys.
4) go to a counselor & ask if you really should marry this man.
5) make sure the local ER knows your blood type & his.
6) set aside money to pay damages to future victims. MAYBE that will get your fiance’s attention.
7) DO NOT KEEP ALCOHOL ON YOUR PROPERTY.
don’t keep it in your garage, car, boat, yacht, submarine, or anywhere else.
9) You BOTH should take earnest action to learn better ways to communicate. he has to learn how to relax without a chemical fix; you can probably benefit from learning better ways to communicate. sometimes it’s something as simple as less confrontive body language, or speaking calmly & repeating what the other person just said — to show them you really are listening, and to make certain you got it right.
10) be honest about this with loyal relatives & friends. You don’t have to take out an ad in the paper, but you shouldn’t pretene everything is fine, either. both of you will need support AND accountability to get this under control.
11) be willing to change your lifestyle. be willing to change it as much as you need to.